Talking to Kids About the COVID-19 Pandemic
I think it's safe to say at this point that we are all ready for the COVID-19 pandemic to be over, right? Well, you never know what the future will bring, and for the foreseeable future, it is unfortunately still part of our lives. Since we can't change this, it's pretty important to talk about it so we can try to avoid the stress, anxiety, isolation, and depression this virus has brought along with it. This includes talking to and with our children about the pandemic. Where do we even begin?
Gauge Their Current Understanding and Provide Straightforward Information
First, be aware of the individual needs of the child. Remember that their age, intelligence, personality, and many other factors should guide your conversation. Probably the most important piece of advice is to provide them with honest and simple information. Yes, you can be honest! The pandemic is scary, but often children imagine something worse than reality. And it's completely fine if you don't have all the answers! No one does.
Ask questions to figure out what your child knows about the pandemic. There is a lot misunderstanding and hearing things that are exaggerated or just not true can make everything seem much scarier.
Ask how they feel about the pandemic and validate those feelings. We are all dealing with the pandemic in our own ways, so it's important to remember that other families may be doing things differently. Yes, this can be frustrating, and that's okay. Acknowledge and validate each other's feelings and emotions. Work together to choose activities that are fun and safe!
Only have these conversations when you can be fully present. No cell phones, no television, no distractions. It's also important to do this at home or another "safe space" where your child feels completely comfortable. Children are less likely to participate when they are in an unfamiliar environment.
Stay calm. Anxiety is contagious, but so is calmness. This provides a sense of security.
Remind your child that there are scientists and doctors all over the world who are working hard to learn more about COVID-19 and keep people safe.
Remember: it is OKAY if you don't have answers to your child's questions! What matters is that you are honest. Make sure they know that you will share with them when you have more information.
Don't make any promises you can't keep. Never promise them that they won't get sick. There is no guarantee, and breaking a promise can compromise the trust your child has in you.
Ways To Give Your Child A Sense of Control
The world is so much different since the COVID-19 pandemic started, which has radically changed the lives of our children. This is extremely stressful, even if they aren't able to communicate it to us. So, here are a few things you can do to help your child feel like they have some control over their daily lives.
Let them help! Involve them in family discussions, i.e. changes in daily routine or household chores. Chores are great for kids, showing children responsibility, but also it gives them a sense of purpose and allows them to feel important because they were able to help.
A consistent daily routine is important, especially when it comes to bedtime, meal times, and keeping consistent rules about behavior.
Encourage age-appropriate self-care. Things like proper handwashing, getting dressed, brushing their teeth and hair, etc. These little things are signs of their growing independence and allow them to feel they have some control over their health and well-being.
Focus on what they CAN do, not what they can't do. Dwelling on the negative isn't good for anyone. Think about coming up with a list of fun things they want to do with family or friends. It's important to take a break and enjoy ourselves, especially during stressful times.
Be A Strong Role Model
Last, but definitely not least, it is crucial for parents and caregivers to be good role models. Children learn coping skills from us, both good and bad. We can make them feel safe during tough times, and it's actually pretty easy.
Provide reassurance, give them lots of love and hugs, and model good behavior. This will go a long way. Make sure they know that we will all get through this together!
Make time for fun and relaxation. Exercise is a great way to de-stress, and why not make it a family activity? Go for a walk together, have a snowball fight, make snowmen and snow angels, etc.
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